She had been over weight for a while because she was in a very controlling relationship and her partner, although loved how she looked, could not handle her being attractive to anyone else. So in fact he was a massively jealous guy who would give her food to show her ‘how much he loved her’.

So after leaving him in a traumatic break up she dropped a pile of weight but then got caught up in the stress of the change and stopped eating with an “if I’m slim I’ll be happy” belief. So she dropped too much weight too quickly and fainted on more than one occasion.

She finally got the point that this was not good and, as she sorted her life out, put a little weight back on then stayed there for quite a while. Life was good but the weight very slowly crept back on and this is when she asked for my help.

To cut a long story short it was guilt that was doing it. She had dealt with all the other things to do with the break up but what she did not realise was she was putting weight back on to be a good mother. In doing her best to look after her children she would give them treats and nice meals to compensate for the turmoil they had gone through.

So in an effort to feel better about herself because of the guilt from the stress of the relationship break up and not always being able to do everything that she wanted to do for her children she used her own favourite tool of food to make them feel better. And she ate these treats too as a way of bonding with her kids.

Luckily the kids had never learnt to use food in this way and so enjoyed the treats but always stopped when they had had enough and are all slim and fit. She on the other hand became a victim of her own desire to be nice.

So whether you use food to feed someone up because you are consumed by jealousy, or as a way of showing love, it doesn’t actually work for either.

But now she understands what she was doing she has found another way of being the best mum she can be and she can be slim as well for her own self esteem.

Posted by Stephen

Is it right away? The very moment you decide to get slim because you want to be slim now, or do you have one last day of eating ‘normally’ (and we all know that means a day of overeating, right?)?

Or maybe you tell yourself you’ll cut back over the next few days because there’s no point trying to diet yet because you’ve got that party/wedding coming up next weekend, so you’ll start properly after that….

How many excuses can you give to put it off and stay fat?

Successful dieters decided they wanted to be slim and start now, not tomorrow or next week (or worse still Monday) but now. So when do you want to start getting slim?

Posted by Dawn